First of all, happy new week and new month to you all. Six months in to the year and I believe this could be a good time for some self-reflection. Don’t you think? There are many things I’ve learn during this year already, and one of them is definitely to let things flow more. Naturally, because nothing works with force. Lets talk about this force thing for a moment. You may complete a bunch of boring admin tasks or housework by forcing yourself to do them, but you certainly won’t enjoy them and your future associations with these tasks will be unchanged. Granted, there’s the sense of achievement at the end of those boring tasks and I know you’re probably thinking I’m nuts if I think there’s a way to make them enjoyable, but boys and girls – there is a way. Here’s what I learnt this year so far and I do encourage you to try for yourself at home.
1. BE GRATEFUL FOR THE “BAD”.
Although I’ve been trying to adopt the new attitude towards contrasting things for many years, I feel that this year it started to come more naturally. There are so many disappointing-out-of-control-things happening in our lives daily, to which we have learnt to react in a certain way. For instance, when your car breaks down, or you miss your flight / train, get locked out of the house in the rain… What’s your usual reaction? Are you instantly pissed off? Of course all of those things happened to me and many more, but I’ve decided to change the way I react and feel about them. It took time. It all began with a couple of instances some years ago. I’ll share one of them with you and perhaps you too would have seen the good in it. The night before our flight to Florida that we were planning for weeks for Sasha’s birthday, my passport went missing. Disappeared from the face of the earth and of course we couldn’t make the trip. Tears, disappointment, anger, stupidity – we’ve had it all that night whilst turning the house upside down. The next morning we learnt some awful news about the airline and the US situation at that time and if that wasn’t some sort of sign to let us know that we were safe where we are, then I don’t know what is. Today, every unexpected contrasting situation that enters our lives I am simply grateful for. It’s just how it’s meant to be for my family’s wellbeing. That’s it.
2. HOW TO ENJOY HOUSEWORK MORE.
Lets start off by saying that I work for myself and I set my own deadlines when it comes to my work. At home however, things simply need to get done and although I really can’t be bothered doing them most of the time, I’ve found a genius way to enjoy them more. Here’s how I’ve been doing my housework for a while now and please do feel free to try it at home. I start off by putting on gym clothes and my wireless headphones. I put on my favourite podcast or an audio book I’m currently listening to and for approximately 2 hours I don’t take my headphones off. The family is usually out somewhere and the dog doesn’t bother me that much. I get fully immersed into what I’m listening to and take every movement, bend down, squat, scrub or a run up and down the stairs 50 times as an opportunity to treat this what once was a daunting and boring experience as exercise. As they say I really do put my back into it now and really enjoy it. Ask my other half and he will tell you that I used to absolutely hate with a passion doing any sort of cleaning and hate everyone around me for making all the mess. I decided to make a change and so glad it was possible. Don’t get me wrong, the house is not spotless or perfect and there will be things lying around at times – I just stress less about them now.
3. ALLOWING THINGS FLOW – NO FORCE.
I may have touched on this conception several times in my blog posts, but it’s something I wanted to share with you in more depth. Thanks to Abraham Hicks and hours of listening to their audio books I think I’m getting to grips with my new way of living.
“If something doesn’t bring you joy – don’t do it.”
Similarly to the housework example above, I can’t just not do the housework. It needs to be done whether it brings me joy or not. But because it’s a task I must do regularly, I decided to make it more enjoyable. For me. Another example is content creation for my work. When I force myself to create content that is simply not flowing, I stop and come back to it when I’m more inspired or my head is clearer and not filled with something else. A walk with the dog does wonders and that too I take as an opportunity to exercise. The moment I feel lazy to go upstairs for something I remind myself that it’s a mini leg workout and run up instead. For a former control freak, allowing things just simply be and flow has made mine and my family’s life so much more chilled. Sure a few “freak-outs” and “why did you leave that there” from time to time, but it’s all healthy. Normal. I lave s%$t lying about all the time and nobody tells me anything. Do you relate?
So there you have it – my three major things I learnt to do differently and this year they’re coming to me more naturally. Lets see what the rest of the year brings huh?
How about you? Is there something you’re able to share with me that you’ve finally mastered and winning at? Would love to learn and hear your thoughts.
WHAT I’M WEARING:
HUGE thanks to my gorgeous daughter Sasha for taking these shots in our neighbours field. Haha… How AMAZING is she?