WHY DO WE CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT US?
I’d like to talk about something different today. Something that affects all of us. Or from what I hear it does. Some more than others, some very little but we all at some point in our lives have cared and still care what others think about us. Our parents, family, friends, teachers, neighbours, passers-by and complete strangers on a daily basis. Is there a distinction or flexibility of such “care” between people close to you and strangers? I mean it’s pretty important for me to know (and care) what my other half thinks about me for example and I’d guess it’d be the same for your close relationships? Do you care what he/she thinks about you? Or are you just going about your business being the fabulous YOU without giving two monkeys what your closest think of your actions and behaviours? Flatmates anyone? I know some people like that and it appears to be somewhat liberating, but at the same time it can come across a little selfish… I feel like there’s such a fine line here and wonder if any of you have similar unanswered questions?
No doubt you will all agree with me that we should definitely NOT care what strangers think about us. Even if there’s something to be ashamed of. Taxi drivers or people in cafes next to you listening to your very private conversations for example. Do you care? Do they know your life story? You real situation? Are you just simply trying to avoid being judged perhaps or asked uncomfortable questions? Do you want to be liked? Why do people feel the need to be liked by others? Is it Human Nature? Or does agreeing with others and not expressing your true opinions and thoughts save you from unwanted conflict or embarrassment even? Read on…
Do you want to be liked?
Does the same apply for passers by who give you funny looks or comments? I would imagine this can be very difficult and challenging for people with “haters” on social media for instance or God forbid in real life. How do they (or you) keep your head up high when life presents you with challenging opinionated people? Are some people simply envious because you have what they wish they had? Material stuff, personal achievements and so on… That by looking at you in a funny way, by saying ugly things to you and judging your decisions and actions will make you feel a little bit worse about yourself and in return… well, in return they will feel better about themselves for one short little moment. They too care what you think about them. Or do they?
Are we all just living in our own little comfortable bubbles and anyone who doesn’t look or act the part is in danger of bursting that bubble?
Yes, I know I have asked a LOT of questions in this post, but this topic has been on my mind for a while now and I’d love to know what you all feel. I’ve come across a number of online articles in the past month where people talk about this particular “care” or lack of it in their New Year’s Resolutions, but I felt it was important to explore this a little further with you. I realise it’s not a straight-forward topic and life can put us in various unpredictable situations so we may or may not act or think differently, but on a day-to-day basis,
Do you care what people think about you? And is caring about what others think about you a bad a thing?
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